A testimony to my friend Awer Mabil – by Mike Conway

“What is the purpose of life? After much consideration, I believe that the purpose of life is to find happiness” – the Dalai Lama

January 26 has been a special day in my family for the last 23 years.  On the same day in 2000 we were made citizens of Australia.  A country which has like my country of birth given me so much. It embraced me and our family from day one.  The positive outlook of the Country made me feel like I belong: something I don’t take for granted.  The date this year, 2023, was also a milestone.

My good friend Awer Mabil was made Young Australian of the Year.  Something that’s made me so happy.  His story of him arriving in Australia via a refugee camp, settling with his Mum and family in Adelaide and making his way to represent the Socceroos in the World Cup and being a philanthropist through his fund raising for other refugees is remarkable as well as inspiring.  However, there are other aspects of Awer which makes him a success: some which I know only through working with him closely as a mentor and mind coach to the Socceroos for the last four plus years.

Awer is a goal setter.  I remember my first session with the Socceroos in Antalya in Turkey in 2018.  After the session, Awer spent some time with me. He liked the references I made to Michael Phelps and to Roger Federer.  I learned of his strong commitment to his family, particularly his deep love and respect of his Mum and siblings.  He was clear from the outset what he wanted to achieve. He’s a real goal setter and continues in striving to improve as a person and in his chosen sport.  You can use experiences such as difficult upbringing, low income, family tragedy and others as excuses for a sad life or, as Awer does, use them as drivers for higher improvement.  No stone unturned on this. We talked about things such as peripheral vision and improving focus and attention and where I could, I would provide exercises or additional materials to help this curious young man.  I remember introducing him to an app which had been built by neuroscientists with a number of exercises linked to improving focus and attention.  I know for sure his scores on the app will have been higher than mine in just a short time.  A few weeks after Antalya, I was celebrating his first game for the national team along with his good friend Thomas Deng.  Graham Arnold and all of us in the Socceroos staff group had been nurturing and encouraging both boys in the lead up to the game against Kuwait.  That game set the tone and the  path for young talent to emerge and participate in a changing face of the national team all the way to the World Cup.

As I reflect on his Award, I think of some of the qualities which Awer applies in life. Interestingly, many of these are typically themes of contemporary writings from people who are known for wisdom in their field.  Many who know my work in helping people grow and develop through mind and emotional training in sport, business and education know I often use Dan Siegel’s models including work on focussed attention, open awareness and kind intention.  (see “Aware, the science and practice of presence” Dan Siegel).  Naturally and through his genuine interest in growth and development, Awer works on all three.  He is committed to constant improvement in his chosen profession, is very much aware of who he is and the energy and information between him and others and through his connections to family, friends and his charity, has a very kind heart.

I remember a particular conversation when we were in Al Ain in the Emirates.  At the time I was reading the book of Joy which was a conversation piece between Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama and had become immersed in its messaging.  Awer and I talked about the most joyful things in life. We both agreed with Desmond Tutu’s commentary:

“Ultimately the greatest joy is when we seek to do good for others.”  We also shared their perspectives of the pillars of the mind and heart which I still use I some of my strategic psychotherapy work and so happy to see Awer embracing fully:

PILLARS OF THE MIND

  • Perspective
  • Humility
  • Humour
  • Acceptance

PILLARS OF THE HEART

  • Forgiveness
  • Gratitude
  • Compassion
  • Generosity

Just this week we learn of Awer’s “Barefoot to Boots” charity work which so far has donated more than two tonnes of boots and many more things into refugee camps including medical and educational equipment. Compassion, generosity and perspective for sure.  It also demonstrates genuine leadership.  The most recent Lencioni work “the six types of working genius” draws attention to six leadership activities: wonder, invention, discernment, galvanising, enablement, tenacity. Typically each one of us demonstrates two “genius” areas of leadership.  In Awer I see wonder and galvanising.  He’s got others around him that help him including his brother.  However, Awer’s eyes are wide open to the possibilities in life and he has the unique spirit of galvanising others.  A recipe for exciting things.

In recent weeks, I’ve been thrilled to see the announcement of the Adelaide 36ers XVenture Schools Program for year 10 HSC students in South Australia. The program takes much of what I’ve been teaching in elite sport, postgraduate and undergraduate classrooms and in the exec training room.  One of the big lessons is the need to understand that we will experience highs and lows throughout life as does everybody.  The key to a happy life is to learn and to practice overcoming the lows and to celebrate the highs.  Those who are older in our society are likely to have experienced many of both.  Those who are older and typically live a happy life have likely learned how to deal with such things.

For Awer, he’s young yet he has experienced many highs and lows already but significantly has already built considerable resilience through his young life. His early years weren’t easy.  His life in elite sport is a constant up and down.  He experienced the pain of deep loss when he heard the news his sister tragically died in a car accident in Australia when we were in the Emirates at the Asia Cup in 2019.  I felt privileged to be there to support him when that happened.  I was amazed of his ability to overcome the tragedy: not by shutting the thought down but by using his sister’s spirit as strength.  He works to live a happy life.

One of the recent trips I undertook was to the USA with the Adelaide 36ers.  Playing both Phoenix and Oklahoma in the NBA, this was an incredible experience.  Just a few weeks before the World Cup to Qatar. Suffice to say, Adelaide put on a terrific performance against a mighty Phoenix side and made history by being the first Australian club side to win in the USA. Whilst I was there, I did what I typically do on an overseas trip and take a new book to read.  On this occasion I took a book I had bought in the UK when I was working with the Birmingham Phoenix  cricket team during the English Summer.   The subject being very much connected with one of the key areas of my work: helping people with tools and techniques to be in a calm state when facing pressure moments.  This particular book caught my eye: the more I read it the more I learned.  One of the few I have honestly read from cover to cover.  “Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art” by James Nestor is a revelation.  How about this as a back cover comment:

“There is nothing more essential to our health and wellbeing than breathing: take air in, let it out, repeat 25,000 times a day…”

Back to Awer: a few months after his sister’s tragedy, I was having a chat to him one early morning.  (Awer was in Denmark and I was in Sydney.). We talked about the ability to be calm, to relax, to rest.  We talked of an exercise I took the team through in one camp: bringing a sense of calm in the last minute of a game. Awer: a young man short of 25 years old, sharing his belief in mindfulness, in focus on breathing to be aware of the present.  So much wisdom at such a young age.

I sent a message to Awer to congratulate him on his Award.  It was so good to see his Mum picking it up for him and his reference and care for her in his acceptance speech. It was a true reflection of modern Australia.  Yesterday, I sent a link to the book on Breath.  Awer is a life long learner and I know he will embrace it.  It’s hard to imagine what else will unfold for our young Australian of the Year. I’m sure it will be rich and plentiful.

To find out more about Awer’s Foundation head to: https://barefoottoboots.org/

About the Author, Mike Conway:

Mike is one of Australia’s top emotional agility and mind coaches. His work has included being part of the coaching team as part of the most successful Socceroos team of all time, as well as work at elite level in cricket and basketball. He is also the author of the virtual world based learning program FCA XV Essential Skills, which provides access to all his work directly to football coaches via fcaxvcollege.com

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The Spreadsheet Is Dead: Majestri’s Fix for How Clubs Actually Assess Players

If you’ve ever sat through a club’s end-of-season review, you’ll know the drill. A coach pulls out a folder of notes, someone half-remembers what a player was like back in Round 3 and a parent quietly wonders what they actually got for their rego fees beyond a team photo. Football club platform Majestri says it has a fix for that, and it’s built directly into its Player Assessment module.

Why clubs bother assessing players in the first place

According to Majestri, clubs run player assessments for one of three reasons – usually more than one at once. Some are chasing genuine development, using the data to lift the level across their high-performance squads. Others are after a fairer way to pick teams, putting every player on the same measurable scale so selection is based on evidence rather than a coach’s gut feel about who “looks the part.” And for clubs operating under a Football Australia or state federation licence, assessments at set intervals often aren’t optional – they’re a compliance requirement, with the paperwork to prove it when asked.

Whatever the motivation, Majestri’s pitch is the same: don’t let that assessment data die in a spreadsheet on someone’s laptop.

Build your own assessment, your way

There’s no one-size-fits-all template here. The Assessment Designer lets technical directors set their own criteria, sort them into whatever categories their coaching staff already use – think core skills, possession, defending, attacking – and decide what each point on the rating scale actually means. Crucially, every criterion also gets a comment field, because a bare number rarely tells the full story of a player’s development.

The Assessment Module Builder for an NPL Juniors assessment
The Assessment Module Builder, showing an NPL Juniors assessment with a 1-10 rating scale banded from under performing through to excelling and role-specific criteria grouped into core skills, possession, defending and attacking. Source: Majestri.

Build it once and it’s reusable every time that assessment cycle comes around, so every player and every coach – is working off the same yardstick.

Something for the parents to actually take home

One of the more relatable pain points Majestri is targeting: most families never see much tangible return from a season of fees beyond a team photo. Player Assessment addresses that with report cards – colour-coded against the same scale coaches used, grouped by category with averages calculated automatically, and delivered as a PDF or an interactive web page a parent can read without needing a coaching badge themselves.

A player report card for an under-15 player
A report card for an under-15 player, colour-coded from under performing to excelling, with a score for every criterion and a group average across core skills, possession, defending and attacking. Source: Majestri.

 

Turning the numbers into something useful

The real value, though, sits in what Majestri calls the Player Analysis Lab. This is where clubs can plot a player against their team-mates or an entire age group across two categories at once, spotting clusters and outliers at a glance. Every score gets read against the group average – so a “7” actually means something in context – and clubs can report at the broad category level or drill into individual fields underneath. The results can be filtered down and exported for selection meetings or grading purposes.

The Player Analysis Lab comparing players in an under-15 and under-16 squad
The Player Analysis Lab comparing seven players across under-15 and under-16 squads, with a scatter plot, a sortable table of scores against the player average, and controls for choosing which categories and fields to report on. Source: Majestri.

The admin side nobody enjoys, made easier

Beyond the flashy analytics, there’s a practical layer built for the volunteers actually running the process:

  • Sweep monitoring – a quick view of which assessments are done and which are still outstanding, organised into defined assessment periods so progress can be tracked against peers.
  • Individual development plans – every player gets a personalised plan, and clubs can group common improvement areas to run cross-team training sessions that lift the whole club rather than just one squad.
  • Access control – coaches and technical staff can only see assessments for the teams they’re responsible for, and completed assessments are only visible to people linked to that player’s registration.
“Hard numbers to draw on when you review coaching staff and curriculum – and something tangible for the players and parents who pay the fees.” – Majestri

 

The bigger picture

Majestri frames all of this as sitting on top of the club’s own data – assessment results live on each player’s profile inside the platform rather than in a spreadsheet that walks out the door when a technical director moves on. For committees, it also means hard numbers to lean on when reviewing coaching staff or curriculum, rather than relying on anecdote.

It’s a fairly clear read on where club administration software is heading: less about digitising paperwork for its own sake, and more about making the data clubs already collect actually work for player development, team selection and compliance  without adding to the workload of the volunteers who run the show.

For more information on Majestri’s Player Assessment module, visit majestri.com.au/player-assessment.

Who Coaches the Coaches? Gary Cole on the Gaps in Australian Football’s Development System

Australian football has long placed player development at the centre of discussions about the game’s future. But former Socceroo, coach and football administrator Gary Cole believes another question deserves greater attention: who is developing the coaches responsible for developing those players?

Following Soccerscene’s recent analysis of the challenges facing Australia’s coaching system, Cole spoke about his experience of coach education, the National Football Curriculum, pathways into professional coaching and the growing number of Australian players pursuing opportunities overseas.

His assessment points to a broader issue. Australia does have a formal pathway for aspiring coaches, but qualifications alone do not necessarily create better coaches or provide a pathway into professional employment.

For Cole, the missing link is what happens between completing a coaching course and becoming capable of consistently improving players on the pitch.

 

From coach education to coaching

Cole’s introduction to coaching stretches back to the early development of formal coach education in Australia during the 1970s.

He recalls being encouraged into coaching by Dr Ron Smith while studying to become a primary school teacher, before later working under influential figures including Eric Worthington.

One experience with Worthington as a young player fundamentally changed Cole’s understanding of what coaching could achieve.

Worthington worked with Cole and his fellow forwards on their movement and ability to create space for one another. Rather than simply organising a training exercise, the coach was deliberately changing individual and collective behaviours that could then influence what happened in a match.

“It was a light bulb moment for me,” Cole said.

“What he was doing was changing my and the team’s behaviours in training, where that could impact the way we played together on the field.”

That distinction remains central to how Cole views coach education today.

 

Does the current coach education system adequately prepare Australian coaches?

“I think it prepares some of your coaches some of the time, but not all of the coaches all of the time,” Cole said.

His concern is that Australian coach education has, at times, moved too far away from the practical environment in which coaching actually occurs.

“In my opinion, and from the feedback that we’ve gotten at Football Coaches Australia over the journey, coach education lost its way a little bit for a period of time,” he said.

“Some of it became academic. It was more about PowerPoint presentations, more about talking about coaching than it was about coaching.

“The magic of coaching happens between human beings on grass. That’s where the success happens.”

Cole does not dismiss the importance of theory, tactical discussion or other off-field preparation. Instead, his argument is that these elements ultimately need to translate into a coach’s ability to influence player behaviour.

As coaches progress further into performance environments, he believes that ability becomes increasingly important.

“The reality in coaching, as you go up through the performance pathways, is it becomes more and more about helping people to get the right behaviours individually and collectively on the pitch on the weekend,” he said.

“And that requires you to do that on the pitch during the week.”

 

Is the National Football Curriculum still fit for purpose?

Australia’s National Football Curriculum has played an important role in creating a common framework for player and coach development.

But with the current curriculum dating back more than a decade, Cole believes a review is overdue.

“There was a lot of good stuff in there,” he said.

“There was a bunch of stuff that wasn’t in there. There’s nothing about tackling or heading the ball, which is quite bizarre given these are two parts of the game.

“Does it need reviewing? Yes, absolutely.”

The need for a review is not simply about individual football skills.

The environment surrounding coaching has changed significantly, from data and performance analysis to artificial intelligence and the increasingly diverse backgrounds of players entering Australian football.

“The game does change and evolve,” Cole said.

Perhaps more importantly, Cole cautions against assuming there is only one correct way to coach.

He admits that earlier in his career he was something of a “coaching snob”, believing successful coaches needed to approach the game in a similar way to those he had learned from.

Experience changed that perspective.

“There’s never just one way of doing it,” he said.

“People can be successful doing things differently.”

For Australian coach development, that raises an important question: should a national curriculum prescribe how coaches should think, or give them the foundations from which they can develop their own approach?

 

Australia has a coaching pathway – but where does it lead?

Cole is clear that there is a formal route available to aspiring Australian coaches.

Coaches can progress through the licence system from the C and B Licences towards the A and ultimately Pro Licence.

But accessing qualifications and building a professional coaching career are two different challenges.

“Having the licence is one thing that gives you access to the road,” Cole said.

“But to become the driver, you need to get on the road, make some mistakes – preferably don’t kill you – and do all those things.

“Go and get yourself a job at whatever level that you can and you’re comfortable at and develop as a coach.”

Experience, he argues, cannot be replaced by certification.

“The best coaches are the ones that have had hundreds and thousands of hours working with football and on the park, because that’s where they develop.”

Cole points to Joe Montemurro as an example of that evolution.

Early in his coaching career, Montemurro told Cole he would observe other coaches and borrow training exercises that looked effective. Over time, however, he developed a clearer understanding of who he was as a coach, how he wanted his teams to play and which exercises actually served that philosophy.

“The best coaches have the capacity to make the complex simple,” Cole said.

The missing bridge into professional coaching

The greater structural problem emerges when coaches attempt to turn that development into a career.

Cole points to Heidelberg United coach John Anastasiadis as an example of the type of progression that should theoretically exist: achieve success in the NPL, earn an opportunity within an A-League environment and potentially progress towards becoming a professional head coach.

In practice, Cole believes that transition remains rare.

“The number of NPL coaches that get spotted and targeted by A-League coaches is almost non-existent,” he said.

“If they’re lucky, they can get a job, and that’s great because it’s the door towards being a professional coach.”

Cole believes Australian coaches with established professional records are highly regarded. However, when clubs look beyond that group, overseas experience can often be prioritised ahead of coaches working within Australia’s NPL competitions.

“We rarely then look down into the NPL competitions in all of the states to find the next batch of elite coaches,” he said.

It creates a difficult contradiction within the Australian pathway.

Coaches are encouraged to obtain qualifications, accumulate experience and prove themselves within the domestic system, yet success at NPL level does not necessarily provide a clear bridge into the professional game.

Are overseas pathways a failure of Australian development?

The same pathway debate applies to players.

The United States college system has become an increasingly visible option for Australian footballers, offering an established sporting and educational environment alongside opportunities to progress into professional competition.

Cole, however, cautions against treating every player who leaves Australia as evidence that the domestic system has failed.

“Development of players is not linear,” he said.

“You like to put things in boxes, but the reality of player development is it can go ahead in leaps and bounds, and then it doesn’t move for a while.”

His advice to parents of talented young players is therefore relatively simple.

“Take them to somewhere where they want your child to be a part of it, you’ve got a good coach and they’re going to play.”

That final point is particularly important.

Australian players have increasingly secured opportunities in Europe and other overseas markets, but Cole argues the prestige of signing abroad matters less if the player is not receiving meaningful playing time.

“We’ve seen a whole bunch of young Australian players in the last 10 years go off into Europe, get a contract in Europe, not play in Europe, get some time in the reserves, and then come back and play more regularly in the A-League,” he said.

“And that’s okay as well.”

For Cole, development should ultimately be judged by whether an environment gives a player the coaching and competitive minutes required to improve.

“Who coaches the coaches?”

It was Cole’s final observation that perhaps best encapsulates the challenge facing Australian football.

When formal coach education was first established, he recalls technical directors carrying responsibility for both player development and coach development.

He believes that role has changed significantly.

At NPL level in particular, technical directors can now spend substantial amounts of time dealing with parents and concerns surrounding selection, playing time and the significant fees families pay for junior football.

“The technical director role is more like a customer service officer because they’re dealing with parents who are paying an awful lot of money for their kids to play,” Cole said.

“If the kids don’t play, they don’t get enough game time or they don’t start enough, they want to know why, and that role falls back on the TD.”

The consequence is potentially significant.

If technical directors become consumed by administration and parent management, responsibility for actively developing coaches can become secondary.

“Within the club system, someone needs to be responsible for player and coach development,” Cole said.

“Because if we’re going to help our players and coaches develop, we need to be thinking about what goes on.

“And who coaches the coaches?

“Coaches can learn without being coached, but coaches benefit from being coached as well.”

That may ultimately be the distinction Australian football needs to address.

Creating more qualified coaches is measurable. Creating environments in which those coaches receive mentorship, accumulate meaningful experience, develop their own football philosophies and can progress towards professional employment is considerably more difficult.

If Australia wants to improve the players emerging from its development system, strengthening the people responsible for developing them may be one of the most important places to start.

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